Spite: noun. A desire to hurt, annoy, or offend someone.
Spiteful: adj. Showing or caused by malice.
We really must be careful that we’re not acting out of spite or saying things because we want to strike back. Do not allow anger to cause you to react spitefully. We like to hold our peace until someone says something that hurts or angers us. Someone could be sharing a nugget of constructive criticism and we take offence. At times people may want to come clean or get something off of their chest and we use that opportunity to strike or to say something we normally wouldn’t have said. If you weren’t going to say it in the first place, DON’T SAY IT!
Become Better Lesson:
1. If you can’t say something nice, do say anything at all.
2. If you have constructive criticism to share, figure out the best way to say it or don’t say it at all.
3. If there is no nice way to say it, SAY IT or live with not saying it. Don’t save it as a trump card for an argument.